LUKE: All right, ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to Luke at the Roost. This is
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know that our street team has been hard at work spreading the word about the
roost. All those roosters are out there dropping off stickers and business cards and truck
stop bathrooms all across the country. So if you happen to see my face on
a sticker, on an ice box in front of a loves, that's intentional. So don't
remove it. First up on the show, we have caller Woody. Woody, welcome to the
show. What would you like to talk about today?
WOODY: Hey, Luke, yeah. So I found a USB drive in the company truck three
weeks ago, and I've been sitting on it because I'm pretty sure my foreman's been
running fake invoices through our drilling operation for like two years.
LUKE: Did you look at what's on the USB key? Because it might be more
interesting than that.
WOODY: Oh, I looked. I looked too much. It's not just invoices. It's spreadsheets with
two sets of numbers, emails between him and some guy and me. Midland, who's definitely
not a supplier, and a folder labeled backup with receipts from a casino in Ruidoso.
LUKE: Well, that's not good. What are you going to do with that information?
WOODY: That's the thing, man. I've been parked at this truck stop for three hours
trying to figure that out. I could hand it to the site manager, but Big
Jim's been my foreman for four years, and he got me this job when I
really needed it. Or I could just toss it and pretend I never saw it,
but then I'm sitting on actual fraud, and that eats at me.
LUKE: Why does that eat at you? What does it have to do with you?
WOODY: Because I'm the one who found it, you know? Like I didn't go looking
for it. It was just sitting there in the glove box of truck number seven.
But now I. And every time Big Jim texts me about helping with his cattle
or asks me how the rig's running, I'm looking at him different. Plus my dad
lost his pension when his company went under because of shit like this. So it's
not just abstract to me.
LUKE: Okay, well, this is a buddy of yours, right? You said he got you
to the job and he's your foreman, you work with him all the time. Maybe
you should just talk to him and see what's up because it could be an
explainable situation.
WOODY: I mean, yeah, I thought about that, but Luke, there's like 40 invoices from
a Southwest drilling supply that doesn't exist. I googled it. And the emails, man, they're
not ambiguous. There's one where he's talking about keeping the split at 6.0 and another
one about making the actual equipment rentals. That's not a misunderstanding. That's a system.
LUKE: Okay, well, if holding on to this information makes you feel strange, how do
you think being a whistleblower would make you feel?
WOODY: Oh, God, yeah, that's exactly it. Like, I'd be the guy who burned big
Jim and everyone on the crew would know it was me because I'm the only
one who drives that truck regular. I'd be done in this industry, at least around
here. Word gets around fast when you're the snitch.
LUKE: if you're technically doing the right thing. Do you know what they say about
snitches?
WOODY: Yeah, they get stitches. I know. And that's not even hyperbole out here. Big
Jim's got friends who, look, let's just say people handle their business differently in the
oil patch. But honestly, what gets me more than that is just being the guy
who couldn't mind his own business.
LUKE: Yeah, it's a little bit messed up that you found a USB key and
then looked to see what was on. Was there anything else on the key besides
these invoices?
WOODY: Oh, there was some other stuff, like a bunch of pictures from his daughter's
birthday last year, and a playlist called Big Jim's Roadhouse Mix, that's mostly George Strait
and some weird country rap. But the invoices were in a folder labeled Tax Prep
2024, which is just, yeah. I mean, I wasn't snooping for this, but when you
see something like that, you don't just unsee it. It's like walking in on your
parents doing it. You can't pretend you didn't.
LUKE: Since you found it, you feel weird about it, and you don't want to
sit on the fraud, and you don't want to say nothing. You've got to talk
to Big Jim and ask them what it's about. Let them know that you know.
Let them know that you found the key. You've got the evidence, and if it
continues, you're going to turn them in, but give him the opportunity to turn it
around. Because I think if you don't do that, you are going to be the
snitch, and it's nobody's going to want to do business with you anymore.
WOODY: Oh, man, you're saying that, like, it's a choice. Like, I'm just going to
walk up to Big Jim, who's got a belt buckle bigger than my fist and
a temper to match and say, that's not how this works. That's how you end
up in a ditch outside of Deming. But, okay, fine.
LUKE: Well, that's why you're smart about it, and you give a copy about it
to a trusted person. If anything happens to you, that copy gets out, and you
let Big Jim know that you've got the evidence. Somebody else has the evidence, and
if he doesn't cut the shit, you're going to turn him in.
WOODY: Jesus, Luke, now we're talking about insurance policies and dead man switches like I'm
in a mob movie. But I mean, yeah, that makes sense.
LUKE: Well, you're talking about conspiratorial fraud in an oil patch with a guy named
Big Jim. You're already in a mob movie, buddy.
WOODY: Okay, fair point. So what? I give a copy to Angela? She already thinks
I'm too paranoid. This is going to really seal the deal. Hey, babe, hold on
to this USB drive and if I turn up missing, mail it to the feds.
That's definitely getting me laid.
LUKE: That is definitely getting you laid. Chicks love danger, and you're a dangerous man.
So do the right thing, be smart about it, and, you know, let them know
that it's not going to stand and you can't be part of it.
WOODY: You know what? You're making this sound way cooler than it feels. I'm sitting
here in a Flying J parking lot eating beef jerky and having an existential crisis,
and you're turning me into some kind of whistleblower action hero. But all right, all
right, I'll make a kind of. I'll make a I'll give it to Angela, who's
either going to think this is the hottest thing I've ever done or the stupidest,
and I'll have a conversation with Big Jim. A very careful conversation, probably in a
public place.
LUKE: There you go. Now you're being smart, and it can be the hottest thing
you've ever done and the stupidest. They're not mutually exclusive. So do the right thing.
You've got a plan now. Execute it, and you're going to be just fine.
WOODY: You know what, Luke? I called in here thinking I was just going to
vent and maybe get told to forget about it. And instead, you've got me planning
like I'm about to take down the Gambino family. But honestly, yeah.
LUKE: Hey, you don't know. This could be the tip of the iceberg, but like
you said, Big Jim is your buddy. He's your friend. He's a guy you want
on your side. So you can frame this in a way that you're really doing
him a favor. Like, look, this is going to get out one way or another,
and I'm giving you the opportunity to keep the lid on that by straightening out
your act.
WOODY: Oh, man. That's... that's actually smart. Like, hey, Jim, I stumbled across something, and
I'm bringing it to you first because I respect you. But this can't continue. Make
it about loyalty instead of accusation. Give him a chance to fix it before it
blows up in everyone's face. The thing is, I don't even know if he's the
one running this, or if he's just signing off on stuff someone above him is
pushing down.
LUKE: Either way, you're right. It's going to come out eventually. It is about loyalty
because he is your buddy. And if he's just, it wasn't about loyalty, you already
would have turned him in. So that's the truth. Stick with it.
LUKE: Do the right thing. And maybe flee the country. Okay, so step one, make
copies. Step two, give one to Angela with the sexiest, if I die, avenge me
speech I can manage. Step three, talk to Big Jim like a reasonable human being.
Step four, have a valid passport ready just in case. Got it.
WOODY: You know what, Luke?
LUKE: What, Woody?
WOODY: I feel like I just went from guy who's going to throw this in
a dumpster and pretend he never saw it to guy with an actual plan in
like five minutes. I don't know if that's good judgment or if you just talked
me into something incredibly stupid. But I guess we'll find out. Worst case scenario, I'm
calling you back from Mexico in a couple weeks.
LUKE: All right, Woody. Well, thanks for the call. We hope it all works out
for you. And if it doesn't, we will avenge you. You have a wonderful night
and stay safe out there. Tamika, Tamika, welcome to the show. What would you like
to talk about tonight?
TAMIKA: Luke, hey. Okay, so, the sheriff just showed up at my neighbor Rose's house,
looking for me because of some stupid warrant from last summer. And she? Covered for
me. But now I'm sitting here thinking I might have just made everything worse for
her.
LUKE: Well, yeah, if you're dragging somebody else into your legal problems, you're. You're obviously
a burden to your friends and society. So what is it that you did?
TAMIKA: It was a poker game, man. Last August, over at this guy Daryl's place
off Route 9. I won $400. And apparently, the game got rated like an hour
after I left. Illegal gambling or whatever. I didn't even know that was coming. I
just took my money and went home to my kids.
LUKE: And how is there a warrant for your arrest? How can they prove that
you were at this illegal poker game? First of all, nobody. cares about 400 bucks
in an illegal poker game. But what makes the fuzz what got them on your
tail?
TAMIKA: That's what I'm saying. I don't even know how they got my name. Best
I can figure is someone talked. Or maybe Darrell had a list or something. He
was running these games pretty regular like every other weekend. But I got the notice
in the mail back in September, said I had to appear for some misdemeanor thing.
And I just, I didn't I was working double shifts. The kids had school starting.
And honestly, Luke, I thought if I ignored it, maybe it would just go away.
LUKE: Well, you know damn well that you can't ignore a warrant or a deposition
or anything from the court, and it's going to go away. I mean, that's stupid.
But I'm not a lawyer. Let me put that out there. I'm not a lawyer
at all. But I'm pretty sure somebody just saying your name doesn't put out a
warrant for your arrest.
TAMIKA: No. You're right. I had to sign in when I got there. Daryl had
this whole thing like a clipboard at the door. Said it was for insurance purposes,
which I thought was weird. But whatever, I just wanted to play cards.
LUKE: What the hell? You walked into an illegal poker game, and the host of
the game had you physically write down information that's identifiable? That's absurd. Who would do
that? Why would you do that?
TAMIKA: I know. It sounds insane now, but at the time it felt, I don't
know, legit. Like, it was true to make it seem professional or something. There were
like 12 people there, half of them I knew from around town. It didn't feel
sketchy. It just felt like guys playing cards on a Saturday night. I wrote down
my name and phone number like an idiot and didn't think twice about it.
LUKE: Well, you know what? I think, skipping, skipping court, that's a crime. But having
your name on a list isn't necessarily. I'm sure if you got a good enough
lawyer, you could get yourself out of that one pretty easily, and you should just
go to court and see what it even is. Because do you know that this
is why they're looking for you? Has anybody from the police department said it's for
illegal gambling?
TAMIKA: No, actually, the deputy didn't say anything to Rosa, except they were looking for
me about a warrant. I'm just assuming it's the poker thing because that's the only
legal. trouble I've had. But you're right. I don't actually know for sure what it's
about. I never opened the court notice all the way. I just saw failure to
appear and my stomach dropped. And I shoved it in a drawer.
LUKE: Okay, well, none of what you have told me thus far in this call
has been very smart. So I'm questioning your intellectual capacity, but I'm going to tell
you right now, you got to go to the court and see what this is
about and get it cleared up, because it's not going to get better if you
continue to hide. from the sheriff. It could be nothing. It could be, uh, it's,
it's probably unrelated, but you know what's worse than illegal gambling? You won $400. That's
tax evasion. That's way worse. They will come after you forever for evading tax on
$400. So you clean this up.
TAMIKA: Oh God, I didn't even. I didn't report it on my taxes. Luke, I
just bought groceries and shoes for my kid. I didn't think about the IRS. Jesus
Christ, is that really worse? Because now I'm spiraling here. You think that's what this
is about?
LUKE: No, I don't think that's what this is about. I think this is about
something completely different. Because honestly, nobody cares about your $400 local poker game. There would
have to be something else going down there, and you're not the one that they're
after. If they're staking out a high-stakes-if it's a Molly's game situation, they're not after
you. and they're not looking for you. They might be trying to get information out
of you about someone else that was there. That I could see, but nobody cares
about your 400 bucks. They might try to use that for leverage. But, yeah, and
since I've identified that you're not the brightest, do not report this to the IRS.
TAMIKA: Okay, okay, so you think they want me to talk about somebody else who
was there? Because there were a couple guys I didn't recognize. One of them had
a real. nice watch was throwing around hundreds like it was nothing. Daryl seemed to
know him, though. You think that's what this is? They're trying to flip me on
someone bigger?
LUKE: I have no idea what this is because you didn't read the fucking document
they sent you that told you what it is. So maybe read that. It might
have some indication. I'm just trying to give you a game plan for if you
do go into the sheriff's office and they have questions because that would be their
intention. It's not to come after you, a mother of however many kids you're all.
mother of for $400 in a home poker game.
TAMIKA: Two kids. And yeah, you're right. I need to dig that paper out of
the drawer and actually read the whole thing. I just panicked when I saw Warrant
and my name and I couldn't deal with it. But now Rosa's spooked. The deputy's
been to her house and I'm sitting here making tea at midnight like that's going
to solve anything. I'll look at it tomorrow morning. First thing.
LUKE: That's good because otherwise you're spiraling into a life of crime and you're bringing
down the people that are around you with you. And it's, uh, you're a detriment
to society. And nobody wants that. So, so, uh, take care of this situation. And
if you've got to stop playing poker at this poker game, I would recommend doing
that for now. And, uh, maybe play online or actually go to a casino. There
are plenty of casinos with poker rooms where you can go play legitimate poker, uh,
for stakes that you're, uh, that you're, that you're, uh, that you're comfortable with.
TAMIKA: Yeah. Yeah. No. I haven't been back since. That was six months ago, and
I learned my lesson. I'm not cut out for that kind of thing. I get
nervous just thinking about it now. You're right, though. I need to stop hiding and
just deal with it like an adult.
LUKE: That is correct. Thank you for the call. We hope it all works out.
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VPN. Next up on the call roster here, we have Clarence. Clarence, welcome to the
show. How's your evening going?
CLARENCE: Oh, man, it's going. You know, got the space heater cranked. Doing paperwork I
should have done three weeks ago. So living the dream. But hey, Luke, I got
to ask you something.
LUKE: All right, hit me with some funny shit.
CLARENCE: So last Saturday, I'm at my buddy Danny's barbecue. We've known each other 20
years, right? Hunt together, help each other move, the whole deal. I go inside to
grab a beer, and I hear him out by the grill, telling people that I
can't even keep my own marriage running, much less an AC unit. And here's the
thing. He's not wrong about the marriage part. Been divorced two years. But man, that
landed different than the usual shit we give each other. I don't understand.
LUKE: that bother you, sir. I mean, okay, so normally we bust each other's balls
all the time, you know? That's just what we do. But this wasn't to my
face. And how well do you know your way around an AC unit?
CLARENCE: What do you mean? I've been running Clarence's heating and cooling for 16 years,
Luke. I know my way around an AC unit just fine. That's not the point.
LUKE: What is the point, sir? Your buddy said some shit behind your back and
you didn't like that?
CLARENCE: No, it's not just that. It's the way he said it. Like he was
of it. Like he'd been waiting to say it. And here's the thing. Danny's my
best friend.
LUKE: Okay. How do you know he was talking about you? I mean, there's not
that many clearances around, but there could be more than one clearance.
CLARENCE: Oh, come on, Luke. We were at barbecue. literally in the next room. He
knows I run the AC business in town. And when I came back out with
the beer, everyone got real quiet and looked at their shoes, you know?
LUKE: Okay. Is it a possibility that you may be a cuckold?
CLARENCE: What? No, Jesus, Luke. I'm divorced. There's no cuckolding happening.
LUKE: Okay, so you can't keep a marriage together and you've been divorced for a
long time. It's not a very good from your friend. So I don't understand why
this is bothering you much. Talk to your buddy and figure out what that was
about. Maybe he was drunk. Maybe he was tripping on acid. You don't know.
CLARENCE: I mean, yeah, the divorce was three years ago. And you're right. It's not
even a creative insult. But that's what's eating at me, Luke. It wasn't creative. It
was just true.
LUKE: Okay. So there you go. You're bothered by it because what he said was
the truth and you knew it. So what are you going to do about that?
It's not his fault.
CLARENCE: No, you're right. It's not his fault. I just, I've been sitting here all
week thinking about it, and I keep coming back to the same thing. Like, why
would he say that? We've been friends for 20 years.
LUKE: Why don't you ask him that? Why are you calling the radio to ask
me why he would say the truth about your life?
CLARENCE: Because I'm afraid of what he'll say, all right? I'm afraid he'll tell me
he's been thinking it for. years that everyone's been thinking it, that I'm the guy
who can fix everyone else's AC, but can't keep his own shit from falling apart.
LUKE: And I heard Woody earlier, the guy with Big Jim and the fraud thing,
and he's going to go confront his friend directly. And that's the same advice I'm
going to give to you is to go confront your friend directly, because if your
friend's feeling that way about you and has been for some time, maybe that friendship
is not worth keeping.
CLARENCE: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you're right. I just, sitting here in this office at midnight,
you know, 20 years of friendship, we were at each other's weddings. His kid calls
me Uncle Clarence.
LUKE: Well, that's a bit weird. That sounds a little creepy. I don't know what
to tell you, Clarence. This doesn't sound like much of an issue to me. Go
talk to your friend and figure out what that was about because people spout off
shit all the time.
CLARENCE: Whoa, hold on. The kid thing isn't creepy, Luke. That's just what kids do
down here. All my buddy's kids call me uncle. That's normal. But you're right about
the rest. I'm making this bigger than it is.
LUKE: Well, that is not normal, sir. I'm here to tell you that Uncle Clarence
sounds creepy. So go talk to your friend and stop being such a baby. Jesus,
it's with these people. Next up on the line, we have Sandy. Sandy, welcome to
the show. How can we help you? I hope you have a better story for
us than Clarence did. Jesus. What about that guy? Uncle Clarence over there? I'm creep.
SANDY: Oh man, no. I'm not calling about my feelings getting hurt at a barbecue.
I can promise you that. So here's the thing. My boss gave me until next
Saturday to sign off on a bunch of fire safety reports that say we did
drills and equipment checks that absolutely never happened, like not even close. home, and I'm
supposed to just put my name on paperwork that says we're all good when we
are very much not all good. And I know what you're going to say. Don't
sign it, report it, whistleblow. But what I actually want to talk about is how
this is exactly the kind of thing that's been keeping me stuck in this town
for two years longer than I should have been here.
LUKE: Okay, well, I don't understand that last part, and you're right. I am going
to tell you to whistleblow like that. I mean, if something were to happen, then
you'd never be able to live with yourself afterwards if you did not whistleblow. But
what is it about this situation that's been keeping you stuck in this town?
SANDY: No, it's not that this specific situation has been keeping me stuck. It's that
this is like the perfect example of how everything works here. Like, my girlfriend left
for Tucson two years ago, and I didn't go with her because I had this
job and it felt responsible, you know? stable, and now I'm sitting here at one
in the morning in an empty building, being asked to compromise myself just so this
place can keep its license and keep operating. Which is the same logic for everything.
The county's broke, the state fundings a joke, so we all just agree to fudge
things a little bit here and there because otherwise the whole thing falls apart.
LUKE: Yeah, well, there's a lot of fudging going around and a lot of businesses.
I've never worked anywhere where at some point I wasn't asked to compromise myself. So
that is part of capitalism, I think. But when it's a safety issue, if it
really has you concerned and people could be hurt from your lack of, lack of,
what's the word, I'm not looking for, integrity, then you've got to do something about
that. Because if you don't, then you suck. You might as well kill the people
yourself, right? you have to report that.
SANDY: Yeah, I know. I'm not signing it. I already decided that. I called my
supervisor on Friday and told her I wasn't comfortable with it. And she gave me
this whole speech about how we're all doing the best we can with what we
have. And how if I make a big deal out of this, the state could
shut us down. And then where would these residents go? Which is probably true, honestly.
LUKE: It may be true, but you know what would not happen? Those residents would
not die in a fire because they didn't shut down a place that was unsafe.
SANDY: Right, exactly. And that's the thing. I'm not even wrestling with whether to sign
it anymore. I'm not going to.
SANDY: What I keep thinking about is how I've been making these little compromises for
two years, telling myself it's because I care about the residents, or because the way.
work matters, whatever. But really?
LUKE: Yeah, I sympathize with that situation. I think we've all been in similar positions,
and I can understand how you feel sort of compromised because you have compromised, but
that doesn't mean you have to continue, right? You've come to this realization. You've had
this moment of clarity. And this is how the world works. That's every single place
I've ever worked, has asked me to compromise myself in some way. Now, they're not
all safety issues, but it's always somebody saying, well, you got to do this for
us, even though I know that it's wrong. And, and, you know the thing? You
can compromise for them over and over and over. You can be as loyal as,
I don't know, a golden retriever. And when it comes down to it, they will
throw you under the bus in a second.
SANDY: Oh, I know. I saw it happen. to the last night shift supervisor. She
tried to raise a stink about the staffing levels, and suddenly she was no longer
a good fit. Poof, gone. And I'm sitting here in the break room. Boots propped
up on a folding chair, picking at a Diet Coke label, and the only light
on in the whole building is this one and the hallway nightlights.
LUKE: Yeah, and it's good to do the best you can and care because in
some respects, you're obviously doing the right thing and helping a lot of people. And
that's good. But the company doesn't care about you. And it doesn't matter what company
it is because the company cares about the company. And if you're not an owner
of that company, they do not give a shit about you. They might pretend to,
but that is performative. That is HR. That is marketing. So make sure you know
that when you're going into this stuff. The best work you can, but at the
end of the day, you are on your own. And don't compromise.
SANDY: Yeah, and that's what my girlfriend kept saying before she left. She was like,
Sandy, they're using your sense of responsibility against you. And I didn't want to hear
it then, because it felt like she was saying the work didn't matter, but that's
not what she meant. She meant exactly what you're saying. They'll take everything you're willing
to give and then act surprised when you finally say no to something.
LUKE: And honestly? You know what? I used to work for a company called Salesforce.
Maybe you've heard of them. The CEO there, his name's Mark Beniof. And when I
worked there in like 2015-ish, it was the culture of the company. It was a
very employee-forward company. there's all the snacks you could eat and Ohana culture. Like they
were all about Hawaii and Ohana and everybody's family here. And you know what's happened
at Salesforce now? They laid off 40% of the workforce and all of that performative
bullshit about philanthropy and fixing hospital wings has turned into, how can I suck the
dick of President Donald J. Trump so that I can get the tax rebates that
he was promised? And this dude Benning, off, he's out there making jokes about ice
and saying, I should come to San Francisco and clean it up. And it's the
complete antithesis of what the company was founded on because all of that is bullshit.
So when a company is in a position to be playing public opinion with their
philanthropy and good works and employee first culture, take that with a grain of salt
because when the tides turn, they turn with them.
SANDY: Jesus. Yeah, I mean, this place never even pretended to be that. We've always
been broke and scrambling. But you're right, it's the same thing just at a different
scale. They'll use the we're helping people angle to get you to cover shifts with
no notice, to ignore safety violations, to take on extra residents when we're already understaffed.
LUKE: Yeah, when I was there, they had. this big conference every year and they
get will I am and whoever is popular at the time to come in and
give a speech about change in the world or some bullshit. And when I was
there, that person that they paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to come speak was
Hillary Clinton. Hillary Clinton came to the company and all support behind Hillary Clinton. But
you know who we're in bed with today? Mr. Donald J. Trump. And that's the
thing.
SANDY: At least with... those big companies. You know it's all fake from the start.
Here, it's worse in a way, because everyone actually does care about the residents. Like,
my co-workers really do give a shit, but the organisation itself is still using that
against us. If you don't sign this, if you don't stay late, if you don't
cover that shift, these vulnerable people suffer. And that's The truth is, I should have
left when gendered.
LUKE: Yeah, and I sympathize with your situation, because that is true. Most of the
people that you work with that are subordinates, that are employees of the company doing
the actual work, they do care. They do want to do their best work. They
do want to take care of the clients. But the people that make the money,
they don't give shit. And as soon as they can find a way to do
it cheaper, regardless of if it's better or more effective, they're going to do it
cheaper and they're going to cut you. you. So don't stay up all night for
the company. Or, I mean, even for the residents, I would say, once in a
while, that's okay, but you can't burn yourself out or give up relationships or decide
where you live for that. That's too much. And I'm glad that you've come to
this realization now before they're throwing you to the curb. So yeah, find yourself a
new position, work for yourself. Be your own. agent.
SANDY: Yeah. And the stupid thing is, Jen's been telling me for months there's work
in Tucson. She's managing a coffee roaster now making more than I do here. And
she keeps saying they need people. But I've been telling myself all these reasons why
I can't leave. The residents need consistency. My co-workers are already stretched thin. I know
this place inside and out. But Really?
LUKE: Well, it sounds like it's time for you to move on. And you did
it for as long as you could. You did the best you could. And when
it came time to compromise your morals and your values, you stood up for yourself.
And you said, I'm not doing this. And you stood up for your clients in
the same way by not allowing, not allowing them to be in an unsafe situation.
So you can feel proud of that and sleep good tonight because you did the
right thing. And now it's time to move on.
SANDY: Yeah, you're right. I'm not signing those reports. And honestly, I think I've known
since Tuesday I wasn't going to. I just needed to.
LUKE: Well, good. I wish you the best of luck, wherever you end up, and
remember the lesson that you learned here, because that is the way that it is.
And make sure that you are completely aware of the compromises that you're making and
their effect on your well-being. and your life, because nobody else is thinking about that
for you, even if they tell the world that they are. They're not.
SANDY: Yeah. Thank you, Luke. Really? I'm going to call Jen when I get off
shift. And hey, maybe I'll call you back in a few months from Tucson and
let you know how it went.
LUKE: All right. Thank you for the call, Sandy. And I hope that it all
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last call. That one got to me because the exploitation of people in that way
really pisses me off. And I've seen it too many times at too many companies
now. So let's move on. Next up. On the line we have Lakeisha. Lakeisha, welcome
to the show. What would you like to talk about today?
LAKEISHA: Hey, Luke. Yeah. So I went to my high school reunion tonight and nobody
remembered me. And I mean, like I was a ghost, four years at that school.
And I walked in and got blank stairs.
LUKE: Okay. Well, how, what was your participation in school? Were you in any, like
the band or sports? Or what, what was you? was your school like?
LAKEISHA: Oh man. I was everywhere. Volleyball team. Choir second soprano. Thank you very much.
Worked the concession stand at every single football game. You name it. I was the
one who always had the extra pen in geometry. The one who'd drive people home
when their car broke down. I was.
LUKE: And tonight? How many concession stand workers do you remember?
LAKEISHA: Okay. Fair, but I'm not talking about, like, random people I stood next to
once. There was this girl, Brittany, who copied my geometry homework every single day for
an entire semester. We sat together. Every day.
LUKE: Okay, well, I will admit that this scenario sounds odd, that you could have
been that involved in school at the time, and nobody remembers you now. Did they
remember each other? Was this like a spike-the-punch situation where everybody was... set up for
a high school reunion orgy? Like, what was the vibe of the reunion?
LAKEISHA: Oh, it was a Spike the Punch situation, though I wish it had been.
At least then I'd have an excuse for why nobody remembered me. No, it was
just polite. Like, everyone was being nice. Too nice. The kind of nice that makes
you feel like you're being humored.
LUKE: Well, yeah, it was a high school reunion. Nobody wants to be there. Everybody's
being humored. Um, that's, that's the deal. But it sounds odd nobody remembered you. Are
you significantly different now? Do you look different? Uh, uh, uh, this is your voice
changed? Uh, what, what were you like in high school versus what you're like today?
LAKEISHA: I mean, I've got different hair now. I cut it short about a year
ago. But it's not like I had plastic surgery or something. I'm still me. Maybe
a little heavier. But who isn't after four years?
LUKE: Define a little.
LAKEISHA: Okay, maybe 30 pounds. Fine. But Luke, come on. I'm not unrecognizable. And it's
not just how I look.
LUKE: I'm not trying to shame you in any way. I'm just trying to understand
how this could happen. And if somebody has significantly changed their physical appearance in some
way, I mean, that's one way it could happen. You say it's not just how
you look. How else is it?
LAKEISHA: It's... I don't know. Maybe I'm quieter now. In high school, I was always
the one organizing stuff, you know, making plans, pulling people together. Now I deal blackjack
at the casino five nights a week, and I barely talk except to call bets.
I watch the same people lose the same money every shift, and I just...
LUKE: Okay, well, I've got a question for you now. It's a strange thing that
you're describing for sure. It would make sense that at least some of those people
would remember remember you from your days in high school. But why do you care
if your high school reunion buddies remember you today? What does that matter? How many
of them do you still interact with? I mean, if you stayed close with anybody
from high school, they would obviously remember you. So you must not be close with
any of them. And what does it matter if they remember you or not? High
school was over a long time ago.
LAKEISHA: Because I don't know. I guess I needed proof that I was real back
then. that those years actually happened and meant something. And not close with anyone from
high school, you're right. But when you're standing there, and someone you ate lunch with
every single day is looking at you like you're a stranger.
LUKE: Yeah, it's odd, and I see how that could feel pretty terrible for a
little while. But then, I mean, take that emotion out of it for a second
and think about the situation and how much that actually affects your life. It doesn't
matter that those years mattered. It was high school. They didn't matter. And the ones
that matter are the ones that are now.
LAKEISHA: You're right. I know you're right. But that's what scares me, Luke. What if
it's happening now, too?
LUKE: Well, are you close with anybody?
LAKEISHA: My grandmother. That's pretty much it. I live with her. Actually. I'm sitting in
her kitchen right now with this stupid name tag still on my sweater.
LUKE: Okay. Well, maybe this is a wake-up call to you to do more with
your life. I assume you're working at the casino because it's the best job you
could get with what you had at the time. What did you do after high
school? Did you get a degree or what trade did you want to go into?
LAKEISHA: I did a year at community college, tried to do nursing. But my mom
got sick, cancer, and I dropped out to help take care of her. She died
about three years ago. After that, I just... I needed money, you know?
LUKE: Yeah, and that makes a lot of sense. You got to do what you
got to do for the money. But what I'm asking is, if you did not
need money, what is it that you would be doing?
LAKEISHA: I was good at organizing things, events, fundraisers, that kind of stuff. In high
school, I ran the whole volleyball banquet senior year, got local businesses to donate, made
it this whole thing. I liked making people feel...
LUKE: Making people feel how?
LAKEISHA: Seen, I guess. Like they mattered. That banquet. I made sure every single player
got recognized for something specific, not just the starters. I spent weeks on it.
LUKE: Well, that's a good leadership trait to have, because that empowers people to be
the best version of themselves, and do their best work, and make them feel good,
and it makes you personable, and it makes you somebody people want to be around.
So if that's your personality, if that's what you're about, I don't think you're going
to have trouble in adulthood, having people remember you 10 years down the line. What
is going to be a problem is that you don't have anybody that you're close
with outside your grandmother right now, and she's not going to be around forever. I
hate to say, you're going to have to have some other people in your life
that you're starting these long lifetime relationships with.
LAKEISHA: That's what terrifies me, though, because I had that, or I thought I did.
years of sitting at the same lunch table, four years of volleyball practice, sleepovers, all
of it. And tonight, it was like none of it ever happened.
LUKE: I talked to one person from high school. I think most people don't talk
to people from high school anymore. Especially if you've ever moved or changed locations, it
makes sense to not stay tight with the people that, you know, you were tight
with when you were 15. But you're not 15 anymore. And you had a... a
wake-up call tonight or whenever you had your reunion. And it's time to move forward
with your life and do something for you. You took care of your mother when
she was sick, and that was a great thing. You spent time with your grandmother
and keeping her company, and that's a great thing. But you also have to take
care of yourself and your own social, not your social standing, but your social health
if being around people is important to you. Now, you've got... important skills that not
everybody has, especially when it comes to fundraising. So my recommendation is to get involved
with maybe a town board or a committee, a chamber of commerce, and get yourself
plugged into the community and start making some friends and doing stuff with them. The
casino is probably not the place for that, but there are lots of places around
where you can find your fitting and provide a lot to... to those places.
AKEESHAH: You're right. I know you're right. It's just... I've been in this holding pattern
for so long, waiting for life to start happening again after my mom died. And
tonight made me realize I've been invisible this whole time, not just at the reunion,
at work, in town, everywhere.
LUKE: Well, if it's important to you to be seen, then go be seen. And
there's lots of ways to do that, and you have the skills. So make it
happen. If it's not important to be seen, you don't have to. It doesn't matter
either way. It's up to you. What's important to you in your life? And it
sounds like right now you're feeling like it's important to be seen. So go get
yourself seen.
AKEESHAH: I don't even know where to start. Like, do I just walk into the
Chamber of Commerce and say, hey, I used to organize high school banquets. Hire me?
That sounds ridiculous.
LUKE: Well, you don't know. You don't have to work for them. But, yeah, if
you walk into pretty much any place in the country and say I'm good at
raising funds, then, yeah, they're going to want to work with you.
AKEESHAH: Huh. I never thought about it like that. I've just been thinking of it
as this high school thing I used to do. Not like an actual skill people
need.
LUKE: Well, it is a very important skill that a lot of people need. You
could join a political party and do it for a candidate that you agree with
their platform. for the betterment of society, for social reasons. You could fundraise for yourself.
Everybody needs a fundraiser, and if you enjoy that work and you're good at it,
you're not going to struggle for work.
AKEESHAH: You know what's funny? I actually liked it. The organizing part. Getting people to
show up. Making them feel like they mattered. At the casino, I'm just...
LUKE: Well, at the casino, you're raising funds for the... the casino, which is fine.
I mean, I like to go to the casino, and there are dealers there at
all the games that make it fun and inviting, and they're very pleasant to be
around and memorable. So even if you stayed at the casino, you can still utilize
those skills and make yourself seen. But I would recommend, since you've described what you
enjoy doing, that you go do that.
AKEESHAH: Yeah, yeah. I could actually do that. There's a literacy thing my grandmother mentioned.
They're trying to get funding for after-school tutoring. I could call them Monday.
LUKE: Well, there you go. Call them Monday and get yourself started, and when you
plug yourself into the community like that, you're going to make friends, and they're going
to remember you, especially if you've raised them half a million dollars. You're not going
to be forgotten. But don't worry about high school. Everybody forgets high school. It's a
forgettable time.
AKEESHAH: You're right. God, I've been holding on to that so tight, like those four
years were supposed to define everything, and instead they just evaporated. But maybe that's okay.
LUKE: That's okay, and I think most people are glad that those years evaporated, because
they're not the ones that define us. They're the ones that kind of shape how
our adulthood begins, but they're plastic.
AKEESHAH: Yeah, that's a good way to put it. Like, it's not set in stone.
I can still...
LUKE: You can still do whatever it is you want to do. So I recommend
that you go do that. And we're running out of time, so I've got to
hang up with you, but I appreciate the call. And I hope you feel better
and move forward with your life. Don't worry about being recognized by people you don't
even talk to anymore.
AKEESHAH: Thank you, Luke. I really... Yeah, I'm going to make that call Monday.
LUKE: All right. Well, thank you for the call, Akeeshah. I hope that it works
out. And you find yourself in a new life that brings you great abundance and
joy. And that's the end of our show.