LUKE: All right, welcome back to the show. This is Luke at the Roost. It's
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phones now, we have Keith. Keith, tell me what you'd think about Terence Howard's Tree
of Life theory.
KEITH: Oh man. Terence Howard's Tree of Life thing sounds like one of those Hollywood
fever dreams to me. Guys, an actor, not a mathematician, and all that talk about
sacred geometry and one times one equals two. Just makes my head spin like I've
been out in the sun too long. For real though, I stick to what I
know. Like balancing checkbooks at the bank or watching the stars come out over the
Pellan Silos. None of that cosmic puzzle nonsense. What got you asking about it, Luke?
LUKE: Yeah, I was just thinking about the little clip I saw of Terence Howard
and Neil DeGrasse Tyson or Terence Center's theories to Neil to review and Neil kind
of bashed him a little bit and he got all butthurt. I thought it was
funny.
KEITH: Yeah, that clip cracked me up too. Terence acting all wounded like a kid
who got his science fair project ripped apart while Neil's just dropping facts like it's
no big deal. For real though, it's like when some customer at the bank starts
explaining why the economy's all wrong based on a YouTube rabbit hole, entertaining, but you
got to stick to the numbers that add up.
LUKE: Well the economy is all wrong and I think that the numbers do add
up to the fact that we're spending way more money than we have and devaluing
our own currency to make up for it. What do you have to say about
that, Mr. Bankerman?
KEITH: Oh yeah, you're preaching to the choir on that one, Luke. I've seen folks
come through the Teller line with their savings shrinking faster than a desert dry spell
all because Washington's printing money like it's confetti. For real though, down here in Grant
County with the mining jobs drying up and folks scraping by on fixed incomes, it
hits harder than in the big cities. We're talking real families not making ends meet.
What's your take on how we fix it? Or is it just a lost cause?
LUKE: How we fix the economy, I think we need to have an independent fed
or get rid of the fed. I like to run Paul's suggestion to get rid
of the fed entirely and let markets control the value of money. That makes a
lot of sense to me.
KEITH: Yeah, Ron Paul's been hollering about ditching the fed for years and I get
the appeal. Letting markets run the show without some suit and DC pulling the strings
sounds cleaner than this mess we've got now. But as a Teller who's watched accounts
tank when inflation spikes, I'm not sure going full free market on money wouldn't just
trade one headache for a bigger one. Like back in the old days, when bank
runs wiped out whole towns around here. For real though, what do you think it
do to places like Silver City, where we're already hanging on by a thread with
the copper prices?
LUKE: It may help, it may hurt, I don't really know. But what it would
do is promote additional business and give other people a chance at some of the
pie. Have some innovative ideas come in, have additional industries, set up shop out here
where there's the land to do it and tax incentives and all that. But the
fed just printing out money whenever they need to pay the bills that they've racked
up. It hurts us all, not just here in the desert but everywhere in the
country and in the world it makes our standing worse and worse.
KEITH: Yeah, you're right on the money about the fed, just firing up the presses
to cover their tab. It devalues everything from a rancher's cattle to a miner's paycheck
and it's got the whole world's eye-ness like where the weak link in the chain.
Down here with all that open land in the heela and tax breaks. If the
state plays ball, I could see new outfits setting up shop. Maybe solar farms or
tech that doesn't suck the water dry like the old copper ops did.
LUKE: Maybe, I don't think that you and I are going to fix the US
economy here on this call but it's interesting to hear you take. Monique, welcome to
the show. What do you think about Terrence Howard and his theory of the tree
of life?
MONIQUE: Oh man, I caught a bit of that earlier with Keith going on about
Terrence Howard. It's kind of wild how he gets all emotional over it. But honestly,
Neil deGrasse Tyson breaking it down makes sense to me. I'm into science stuff like
battery tech and all. And that tree of life theory just feels more like philosophy
than real physics, you know?
LUKE: Terrence Howard is an actor. He's decent at talking. He doesn't sound like a
complete moron but it's funny to see Tyson shut him down. But what if we're
all wrong and it's not a crazy whack theory? What if we learn 10 years
down the line that he was right and one times one does equal to?
MONIQUE: Haha, yeah. It's always fun to play that what if game? Who knows? Maybe
in 10 years we'll all be calculating math with one x1 equals sign 2 and
my EV battery research will look like child's play. But honestly, Tyson's got the facts
on his side for now. I mean, I'm knee deep in energy transition stuff at
work. And theories like Howard's feel more like a cool story than something you'd bet
your truck on. Speaking of which, I almost hung up calling in tonight because my
signals crap out here. One bar and it's flickering, but I had to share this
thing that's been eating at me.
LUKE: Okay, then what's been eating at you? How can we help you, Monique?
MONIQUE: Oh, thanks for asking. I've been staring at this unanswered text for my husband,
all evening. You know, the kind that just hangs there like a bad omen. And
I finally picked up the phone because I needed to get it out. We're separated
right now, living apart, but haven't pulled the trigger on filing yet, and it's all
because of the kids. I'm staying for them, but man, it's killing me inside. Like
I'm just going through the motions in this frozen desert winter.
LUKE: Yeah, it's unfortunate, but if you know in your heart it's time to move
on, then it's probably time to move on. And the faster you do it, the
faster everybody can heal from it.
MONIQUE: Yeah, I hear you on that. It does feel like ripping off the band-aid
might let everyone breathe again, especially me. Because right now it's like I'm stuck in
this limbo, driving my RAM 2500 to work every day, pretending everything's fine for the
kids' sake. But the kids? They're the only reason I haven't filed yet, and worrying
about how it'll hit them keeps me up at night, you know? My friend Tammy
from church is the only one who's in on the whole mess, and even she
says I deserve better. But damn, it's scary to actually do it.
LUKE: Well, you know what, Monique? You don't deserve anything. None of us deserve a
god damn thing in this life, and if you think that you deserve something, then
you're going to be sorely disappointed when you don't get what you think you should
have had. Whether or not you should stay in your marriage that's up to you,
but don't leave your marriage because you think you deserve better. You don't. You don't
deserve anything.
MONIQUE: Oh wow, that's a tough pill to swallow, but yeah, you're right. Expecting to
deserve better just sets you up for more hurt. And I've been doing that dance
in my head for months now. It's not about deserving. It's about surviving this limbo
without completely losing myself, especially with the kids watching every move I make. My mom
Lorraine's getting up there too. And I worry what this fallout will do to her
heart if I finally file hell. I even relocated a rattlesnake off the porch earlier
today just to keep things steady around here.
LUKE: Well, be careful with those rattlesnakes and don't worry too much about how your
mom feels about your divorce because it's your life.
CALLER: The kids, they will figure it out, you know, they're not the first kids
to have their parents divorced. It happens. It affects everybody, but they move on and
it helps shape who they become. If if you're staying in a marriage and not
happy in, then the kids know that too. And either way you're doing damage. So
you might as well do the least damage, cut it all off, set everybody free,
and move on with your life.
LUKE: Yeah, you're spot on about the kids. They pick up on the tension anyway
like little radars.
CALLER: And I've seen it in my work as a social worker how pretending just
builds this quiet resentment over time. Cutting it off sounds freeing, but that text I
was staring at it's him saying he's sorry for the fight last week and part
of me wants to reply just to end the silence. But the other part knows
it'll drag me right back into the mess. I guess what I needed was someone
to say it's okay to let go, you know.
LUKE: It's okay to let go and it's okay to reply to a text. None
of that has any significant bearing on the future of your life. But if you're
with somebody you don't want to be with, then you're doing yourself and then into
service and it's time to have some hard conversations and get the ball rolling.
CALLER: Yeah, replying to that text might just be the spark for the hard talk
we need. I've been avoiding it like that frost on my truck in the morning.
But you're right. Dragging it out is the real disservice to both of us and
the kids. My signals cutting in and out again here. But damn, this feels good
to say out loud. Maybe I'll hit send after the show and see where it
goes. Thanks for listening. First time calling in and I didn't expect to feel this.
LUKE: All right, great. I'm glad you had a good first experience calling the show.
Good luck to you and your family and I hope that all works out and
don't stick along, don't stick around longer than you're welcome. Ray, welcome to the show.
Ray, what do you think about Terrence Howard?
RAY: Oh, man, Terrence Howard. That guy's got some wild ideas with his tree of
life stuff. Saw that clip when Neil DeGrasse Tyson shut it down and I'm sitting
there thinking, yeah, science doesn't bend for Hollywood theories. But honestly, Ray here from San
Simon. I called in because my buddy dared me after feeding the dog tonight and
now I've got this call from my sister saying my old man's dying in New
Mexico. Haven't spoken to him in like 15 years. It's got me all twisted up,
blaming him for bailing when I was a kid, you know.
LUKE: Yeah, sometimes dad's bail. Do you know why he bailed? Did he have a
good reason for it? Do you know what was going on in his life at
the time or have you ever thought of it from that perspective?
RAY: Yeah, bail. That's putting it lightly. He just up and left when I was
12. No note, no call, nothing. Left my mom to scrape by on her own
in this dust bowl town. Well, he chased whatever pipe dream he had over in
New Mexico. I figure he was just selfish. Probably some a fair or gambling mess,
but who knows. I never got the full story because he ghosted us all. And
I'm not about to start digging now with him on his deathbed.
LUKE: Well, that's your choice and you can carry that resentment as long as you
want, but you might not be correct about that. He may have had his reasons,
and now would be your final opportunity to figure out what they may have been.
RAY: Yeah, well, easy for you to say. I've been carrying this around like a
ton of bricks for decades, and now you think I should just pick up the
phone like it's no big deal. But damn, you're right. It might be my last
shot, and part of me wonders if I pushed him away too, yelling at him
back then instead of listening. You know, like the stubborn kid I was. Hell, with
the show being late night and all, maybe I'll stew on it while scraping frost
off my ram in the morning.
LUKE: Yeah, well, you know, I wouldn't think that it was your fault. It's really
never the kid's fault if a parent, you know, does something. You can't take responsibility
for that on yourself, but that doesn't mean he didn't have a reason. I'm sure
that he did, and the guy's going to die. So, I mean, what's the harm
in figuring out what that reason is now while you still have a chance. If
you wait much longer, you might not get the chance, and then you'll have to
carry the resentment for the rest of your life. And it's just it's better for
you to get it out in the open and have it resolved.
RAY: Yeah, I hear you. It's not on the kid. Never was. And I've told
myself that a thousand times while preaching to the youth group about forgiveness. But damn,
if it doesn't still feel like I could have done something different back then. You're
right, though. With him on his last legs, what's the harm in calling to hash
it out? Even if it means admitting I was part of the mess, like how
I shut down every attempt he made to reach out after he left.
LUKE: Sounds like you've got to talk that you need to have with your dying
father, and that might be a difficult conversation to have, but you're obviously an adult,
and you can make hard decisions and have difficult talks. So, talk to your dad,
figure out why he left, and maybe move on without carrying that burden forever.
RAY: Yeah, I know you're pushing me toward that call. And hell, as a pastor,
I tell folks all the time to face their demons. But this one's got me
staring at the phone like it's a rattlesnake. It's funny, though. I'm separated from my
wife right now, living in the same damn town, but worlds apart, and I keep
thinking how I avoided the hard talks there, too. Blaming her for everything while ignoring
my own screw ups. Maybe this is the universe's way of making me practice what
I preach before Frost hits the truck tomorrow.
LUKE: Hey, well, hope it all works out for you, and hope there's no frost
on the truck tomorrow because I don't want any on mine. Deb, welcome to the
show. Deb, what do you know about Terence Howard and his theory of the tree
of life?
DEB: Hey, Luke, thanks for having me on. Feels a bit weird calling in like
this. But all right, Terence Howard's tree of life thing, from what I've caught in
clips, it's him talking about some geometric patterns, tying into everything from math to the
universe, like sacred geometry on steroids. But it sounds more like wild speculation than solid
science. Kind of reminds me of those late night infomercials that promise the world.
LUKE: What do you think would be the implication to society if we learned that
Terence Howard was correct?
DEB: Oh man, if Terence Howard turned out to be right about that tree of
life stuff, it probably flipped science on its head. Textbooks rewritten, religions debating if it's
divine proof, and tech companies racing to patent flower of life gadgets. But honestly, it
did just prove how much we still don't know, which is kind of humbling. So
yeah, that got me thinking about real game changers like fusion energy. I saw this
article the other day about the US needing a national strategy before we lose our
edge. And at 40, I'm wondering if we'll actually see it in our lifetime, or
if it's just more hype. What do you think, Luke? Practical breakthrough or pipe dream?
LUKE: I think it could definitely be a practical breakthrough if we would allow it.
But we're not going to allow it because what we want to allow is coal
and fossil fuels. And we want to keep the machines that are running, running the
way that they're running without any significant change to standard operating procedure. I don't think
that's right. I think it's kind of sad and it's holding us back in lots
of ways, but that's the deal. But have you seen Elon is trying to build
a data center on satellites orbiting up with the Starlinks?
DEB: Yeah, it's frustrating as hell how we're stuck on coal and oil just to
keep the old machines humming. Feels like we're sabotaging our own future, especially after hearing
Keith earlier rant about the Fed printing money and killing innovation. Spot on. That ties
right into why we can't pivot to stuff like fusion without shaking up the economy.
LUKE: We don't know that fusion would work. It seems like it would. It seems
powerful enough to power the entire universe. But we don't know what the negatives of
that would be or I don't know. I mean, what are the potential negative consequences
of running fusion energy? What if there's an accident? Would we have a Fukushima situation?
CALLER: Well, fair point, Luke. We're still figuring out the kinks, and yeah, it's not
like we can just flip a switch without risks. But fusion's a whole different beast
from fission. No chain reactions means no Chernobyl style meltdowns. And the waste is way
less nasty, mostly short-lived stuff from the tritium fuel. The big worries seem to be
containing the plasma without it fizzling out, or accidental releases of that hydrogen isotopes. But
experts say it's inherently safer than what we've got now. No Fukushima nightmares since it
shuts down if things go wrong.
LUKE: Well, what are those experts funded by? Like, what's their perspective? Is it in
their interest for this to go forward and is the reduction of the risks marketing
hype, or is that the truth?
CALLER: Well, here's the thing, Luke. Most of those experts are funded by outfits like
the Department of Energy, international projects like eater, or startups chasing venture capital, not the
oil barons who'd rather keep us hooked on fossils. So yeah, their perspective is all
about clean, limitless power to solve climate messes and energy crunches. It's definitely in their
interest to push fusion forward, since that's their careers in the planet's future on the
line, and the risk reduction isn't just hype. It's straight physics. Without constant magnetic confinement,
the reaction stops cold. No runaway disasters like with fission.
LUKE: Well, that's maybe an interesting solution, and I'm sure when we've dug all the
coal out of the ground and fracked every last little bit of oil that we
can, we'll probably turn to something like that. But until that happens, if there's still
rocks in the ground that we can assign a value to, we're going to continue
doing that.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, you're probably right that as long as there's profit in those rocks,
we'll keep clawing them out. It's all about the bottom line until the planet bites
us in the ass with worse floods and fires. But waiting till the coal's gone
means we're screwed on climate long before fusion saves the day. And that's why that
article hit me hard. If we don't push a national strategy now, we'll hand the
lead to China, or whoever's investing smarter.
LUKE: Well, you know, it doesn't really matter who comes up with the technology once
it starts working for one country. The others will follow suit. So whether we lead
China or China leads us at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter
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Okay, and we're back. Dale, we've got Dale on the line. I'm thinking about Terrence
Howard's crazy tree of life theory. What do you take of Terrence Howard and his
scientific ambitions?
DALE: Hey Luke, thanks for taking my call. Signals have been spotty out here in
Globe, but I'm hanging on. Terrence Howard's theory? Man, it's wild. Like he's trying to
connect dots from ancient geometry to quantum stuff, but I got aside with the skeptics
like Tyson. It sounds more like Hollywood flair than real science to me.
LUKE: What would make it sound more like real science to you if you agreed
with the theory more?
DALE: Well, to sound like real science, it did need some solid experiments backing it
up. Peer-reviewed papers, testable predictions that actually hold up in a lab, not just drawings
and big ideas. If I agreed more, maybe if it tied into something proven like
quantum entanglement or explained to mystery, we can't crack yet, but right now it feels
too out there, like sci-fi pitching.
LUKE: How many science-backed experiment peer-reviewed papers have you read about quantum entanglement that makes
you believe that it's true? I'm not saying it is or isn't true. I'm just
asking, how have you done your due diligence to ensure that where you've read or
been told is actual fact? And at what level do you start to believe something
as opposed to being skeptical of it?
DALE: Fair point, Luke. I'm no physicist. Just a cop who's poked around some articles
on sites like Scientific American or Surin's Reports. Maybe a half dozen summaries on entanglement
over the years. Enough to see it's been tested in labs worldwide since the 80s
with consistent results.
LUKE: My due diligence? Well, yeah, we're saying we don't believe Terence Howard's theory because
there's no science-backed peer-reviewed published studies on it. But I have never read a peer-reviewed
published study done entanglement either, yet I believe it to be true because I've read
so many times that there have been those studies. I don't know if that's true
or not.
DALE: Yeah, exactly. You're trusting the consensus from reliable sources, like how I do with
entanglement. I haven't dug into the raw papers myself. But seeing it referenced in textbooks,
NASA stuff, and even court cases about faster than light stuff makes it credible enough
for me to buy in without being a full skeptic. It's the same reason Howard's
ideas fall flat. No one's echoing them in those circles, just a lot of buzz
from interviews and his own claims. But anyway, Luke, the real reason I called in
tonight, the quiet out here in Blob got to me while I was scrubbing dishes,
and I started thinking about this person close to me, who's still around, but man,
not the same anymore, like I've lost him without the funeral.
LUKE: What happened? Who is this person in your life?
DALE: Oh, it's my uncle Hector. He raised me after my dad bailed when I
was a kid, basically the only dad I ever knew. Tough old minor with stories
about the copper pits that it'd keep you up at night. But a couple years
back, he had this stroke that wiped out a chunk of who he was. Now
he's in that assisted living spot over in Miami, Arizona, staring at the TV most
days, doesn't even recognize me half the time. And it hits like grief every visit
because the guy's still breathing, but the fire's gone. I keep telling myself it's bullshit
to feel this way about someone alive. But damn, Luke, the quiet tonight just amplified
it while I was elbow deep in suds.
LUKE: Yeah, and well, that's a heavy thing. Of course, you're going to feel grief
if you've lost the part of somebody that was special to you, was meaningful, that
raised you. It is a sort of death.
DALE: Yeah, exactly. A death without the closure, you know? I mean, Hector was the
one who dragged me out to the Beshbagh-Gwa ruins as a kid, teaching me about
the Apache history around here, making globe feel like this tough rooted place. And now
it's like talking to a shadow. But hearing you say that out loud, Luke, makes
it feel less like my own bullshit weighing me down.
LUKE: No, it's okay to feel the way you're feeling and to miss the man
that you loved. I don't think that's weird at all, but he is still there
in some parts, so hopefully you have an opportunity to spend what time is left
with him. And I have heard of people becoming lucid towards the end of their
life, so you might get one last chance to see the guy that you used
to know.
DALE: I guess you can you can hope for that.
LUKE: Yeah, I try to get over to the assisted living place every couple weeks,
even if it's just sitting there holding his hand while he dozes off. But it's
tough not knowing if he's in there somewhere, hearing me ramble about the forests or
the ham radio set up by building the garage. That hope for a lucid moment
keeps me going, though.
KHAN: Last month, he mumbled something about the old mining days out of nowhere, and
it was like a crack in the door, you know? Makes me wish I'd called
this show sooner instead of letting the dishes in the desert quiet eat at me
tonight.
LUKE: Hey, you can let the negative thoughts eat at you until you decide to
stop, so you are the only one that has control of your mind and your
thoughts, even though sometimes it doesn't feel that way. If you're thinking about stuff, you
don't want to be thinking about anymore. You have the power to change your attention.
And if if washing the dishes makes you think about stuff, you don't want to
think about stop washing the dishes and read a book or draw a picture or
do something creative. You can steer the ship. But if you don't, if you don't
steer the ship, it's going to steer itself usually somewhere you don't.
KHAN: Yeah, you're right, Luke. I do have that control. It's just the quiet nights
out here in Globe where the signal flickering like it is, make it easy to
let the mind wander into those dark corners instead of flipping the switch to something
better. I've got that ham radio rig in the garage that usually pulls me out
of it, tuning into chatter from all over. But tonight the dishes just snuck up
on me after that long drive back from Walmart and Deming.
LUKE: Well, I went to Walmart and Deming today too when I got some groceries
and some stuff to fix my ceiling fan here that's been giving me a hard
time. That's the project for tomorrow. I wish you the best of luck with the
rest of your night. I hope you can move your thoughts to a more positive
place and best of luck to your to Hector out there. Hopefully he is having
a decent life or is not suffering and I hope you get a chance to
talk to him again.
KHAN: Yeah, small world with that Deming run, hope your ceiling fan cooperates tomorrow. Those
things can be a real pain when they start wobbling. Thanks for the kind words
on Hector, he's not in pain at least. And yeah, I'm holding out for that
real talk some day. This calls already got me feeling a bit lighter, Luke, like
I steered the ship just in time tonight. So appreciate you listening.
LUKE: We appreciate you, Khan. Thanks for calling in. And next up we have Carla
Collar's return collar. Welcome back to the show, Carla. What would you like to talk
about today? You got any thoughts on Terence Howard?
CARLA: Hey, Luke, good to hear your voice again. It's Carla, wired on this god
awful instant coffee at 2 a.m. Terence Howard. Nah, I saw that clip with Neil
deGrasse Tyson tearing into his tree of life stuff. And for real though, that's what
kills me about these celebs science theories. They sound wild but fall apart without real
data, like waiting on JWST to confirm exoplanets instead of just winging it.
LUKE: I'm pretty sure we have confirmed exoplanets, have we not?
CARLA: Yeah, every month or so it feels like Luke. JWST is dropping these gems
on habitable zones out there and it just blows my mind how a spotting world
that could actually support life. Not some half-baked theory, but hey, speaking of things that
hit close to homes since I last called, I finally told my in-laws to back
off for good, and man, it was a scene. But worth it, feels like I
can breathe now without them breathing down my neck through my soon-to-be ex. That's what
kills me though, reading about James Rand's own passing at 46 from that article the
other day. Life's too short for all this family drama, you know.
LUKE: Oh yeah, that's Ziggy from the wire, right? He's uh, he played in Generation
Kill. I liked that actor, and uh, I read about that too. He killed himself,
right? And there was a big to-do.
CARLA: Yeah, Ziggy from the wire, loved that show, in Generation Kill 2, he had
this raw energy that stuck with you. Suicide at 46 though. That's what kills me,
Luke. All that talent gone like that, and the paper's making it this spectacle when
it's just heartbreaking. For real though, hearing Ray call in earlier about his dying dad
hit way too close, my own old man's been gone years now. But if something
like that popped up with my estranged side, I'd be wrecked. Makes you think about
cutting the toxic crap before it's too late, like I did with those in-laws.
LUKE: Well, nice job doing what you had to do and getting the in-laws out
of your life, and I hope everything goes well with your separation, divorce situation, and
that you can move on and live a happy and productive life.
CARLA: Thanks, Luke. That means a lot coming from you. Yeah, the divorce papers are
in motion now, and without those in-laws puppeteering my ex, it's like the fog's finally
lifting around here. For real though, that run's so news has me staring at the
ceiling all night. Thinking how one wrong turn or unchecked stress can end it all
so young, makes me want to crank up the truck tomorrow and just ride out
to the desert for some clear head space, frost or no frost.
LUKE: Then I think that's what you should do. We have this incredible resource here
in the desert, and it's better to not take it for granted. Go enjoy the
desert and see what's happening out there. Jerome, thanks for calling the show. What do
you think about Terrence Howard in his Tree of Life theory?
JEROME: Hey, Luke, good to hear your voice out here in the desert night. It's
clear as a bell tonight, about 64 degrees, but dropping fast. Terrence Howard's Tree of
Life thing? Yeah, have you heard about that, where he thinks that everything is created
from these geometrical shapes that, if you lay them over each other, they make like
a tree?
LUKE: Yeah, I caught a clip of that. Guys got some wild ideas, like he's
reinventing math with flower shapes or whatever. Sounds more like something you'd see etched on
a hippie van than actual science. But hey, if it gets folks thinking outside the
box, who am I to knock it? Reminds me of these survival knots I tie
out camping, simple patterns that hold everything together when shit hits the fan. Oh, I
referred you wrong. He's not calling it the Tree of Life. It's the Flower of
Life. Terrence Howard believes in the Flower of Life, and he thinks that mistakes have
been made all throughout physics and science, which it's probably true, but he does sound
like a bit of a nut job.
JEROME: Yeah, Flower of Life got it. My bad for mixing it up with some
biblical stuff. You're right. Science has screwed the pooch plenty of times, but Howard comes
off like he's one bad acid trip away from starting his own cult out in
the desert. Anyway, Luke, I ain't calling to debate geometry. It's late Saturday, trucks gasped
up at the station with the good signal, and I've been chewing on this nagging
feeling that I've been towing the wrong line for the last 15 years.
LUKE: What line have you been towing? You're talking about your wife, I assume.
JEROME: Now, Luke, not my wife. I'm divorced a couple years now. Got a girlfriend,
Amber, who's been keeping me sane. I meant towing, like my tow truck gig, been
hauling cars outside Tucson for 15 years, and woke up one morning realizing it's all
wrong, like I'm just going through the motions. Hell, even the desert air tonight while
I was walking couldn't shake that itch to switch it out, but what the hell
do I do at 40?
LUKE: 40's not that old. You could do literally anything you want. If you've got
you got trucks, I assume you own them. You can sell those off and buy
a gas station or you could travel the world or you could go take a
job in another city or there's many avenues that you could go to at 40.
I don't think you're locked into whatever career path you chose in your younger years.
JEROME: Yeah, Luke, that's easy for you to say from the studio.
LUKE: Me, I've got this tow truck that's seen more breakdowns than I have and
selling it off sounds good on paper. But what about Amber? We've only been together
a year and she's got roots here in Tucson with her job at the university.
Hell, part of me wants to pack up and head back to those family drives
to hatch for chilly season, like when I was a kid, but at 40, starting
over feels like jumping off Segwara without a net. What's the first step without screwing
everything up?
LUKE: I think if you want to maintain that relationship, if it's important to you,
the first step would be to talk to her about it and see what she
thinks. Because maybe she's looking for something different too and you two can go off
and do van life or pick a different city where you've got different career options.
There's so many opportunities, but it all starts with you just having that conversation.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, you're probably right. Sitting her down over some pie from that old
diner spot I miss would be the way to go. Though with the divorce still
raw after two years, the thought of rocking the boat with Amber twists my gut.
She's the steady one, you know? While I'm out here daydreaming about survival camping in
Sewaro Park instead of towing wrecks. But hell, what if she shoots it down flat?
Do I just bail on Tucson in the life we've built? Or is there a
middle ground like you said with van life?
LUKE: Hey man, I don't know that all depends on you two. And how important
this relationship is to you don't have to stay with this woman if you don't
share the same life goals. And if you do share the same life goals and
talk about what those are and do what you can to make them happen.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, that hits home, Amber's important, but if we're not on the same
page about ditching this tow truck rut for something like those camping trips I love,
maybe it's time to face that.
LUKE: Hey, lots of people love camping, lots of women love camping. Have you gone
camping with Amber?
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, fair point. Maybe I should just drag Amber out to Sewaro for
a weekend under the stars and see if she bites on the whole survival vibe
instead of me assuming she's glued to her desk job. It's been a clear night
out here cold enough for frost on the truck come morning and hell after that
walk earlier talking it out with her sounds less scary than calling into your show
like some desperate fool. But what if she hates bugs and dirt? Do you think
most folks actually stick with that outdoor lifelong term? Or is it just a phase?
LUKE: I think it doesn't matter. If it's a phase, then it's a phase and
you still get to have that experience. And if it's not a phase and it's
a lifestyle, then it's a lifestyle. So you know, whatever it is that you choose
to do, you don't have to do it forever. And if you're passionate about camping
and survival situations and your spouse or your partner is not, well, then that's something
you got to navigate with them or decide to get another partner.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, you're making it sound straightforward. Like if Amber's not into roughing it
in the desert with me, we either hash it out or I cut loose. But
after my divorce, the idea of starting over with someone new feels like trading one
wreck for another. Still, that package I picked up at the post office today had
some new camping gear in it and part of me's itching to test it out
solo just to clear my head. You ever had to pick between a passion and
a person? Or does the radio gig keep you from those messes?
LUKE: No, I wouldn't say I've had to pick between a passion and a person.
My passions have definitely caused problems with people. I tend to go very deep on
different subjects, including this radio show. And that can feel isolating to the people around
me like I don't care about them because I'm doing something else. So you have
to strike a balance if it's somebody that you care about keeping in your life
and be mindful of investing the time into that relationship that it requires.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, that isolation thing rings true. Towing trucks all day out here in
the desert means I'm gone from dawn till dark. And by the time I get
back to Amber, I'm beat and just crashing instead of connecting like I should. My
sister's Maria always says I'm married to that damn truck more than any woman. And
after the divorce, I don't want to repeat that mistake. So how do you even
strike that balance without one side suffering? Do you set rules like no radio talk
after 10 or just hope the other person gets it?
LUKE: Well, it's going to be, that's going to depend on each individual person. And
there's always some suffering on one or both parts. I mean, there's compromise involved in
any relationship. So you have to decide where that line is for you. Where does
compromise become too much where you're losing yourself and your own goals and passions. And
if it gets to the point where where it's teetering to to you losing yourself
to make somebody else happy, then maybe that's the wrong relationship to be in and
it's time to move on.
CALLER: Yeah, that's the kicker, isn't it? I've been compromising so long. I don't even
know where line is anymore.
LUKE: Well, it doesn't sound like you've been compromising all that much if you love
your truck more than your woman. Angie, Angie, you're going to be our last call
for tonight. What do you think about Terrence Howard's flower of life theory?
ANGIE: Oh, Luke, last call of the night. Lucky me, I get to wrap things
up before I stare at the ceiling till dawn.
LUKE: Yeah, you do. Terrence believes that there's no straight lines in nature. Do you
think that's true? There is nothing straight in nature?
ANGIE: Yeah, I buy that. No straight lines in nature. Just like life keeps throwing
you these wild curves when you least expect it. Makes me think of fishing out
by the Chiracahuas, the rivers all bends and twists. But that's where you hook the
big ones if you're patient. Anyway, Luke, I didn't call in just to geek out
on Howard's theories. Truth is, I've been staring at the TV all night without seeing
a damn thing. Just turning over this news that hit me like a freight train.
LUKE: What's the news that's bothering you?
ANGIE: Oh, Luke, it's this doctor's visit the other day. Turns out I can't have
kids like ever, and it's just gutted me more than I thought it would. I'm
46, widowed a few years now, and yeah, I knew the clock was ticking. But
hearing it straight like that?
LUKE: Yeah, I imagine that's a blow. I mean, I never wanted to have kids,
so that sounds like a you won the lottery to me, but I know that
different people feel differently about it. Were you intending to have kids anyway?
ANGIE: Yeah, Luke, I get that. Not everyone's wired for the kid thing, and hey,
more power to you if it's a relief. But me? I was starting to think
about it again lately, you know, after losing my husband a few years back. Figured
maybe with the right person down the line, it wasn't too late to build that
family I'd always pictured. Now it feels like the universe just slammed that door shut,
and I'm left wondering what the hell I'm supposed to do with all this quiet
in the house.
LUKE: Well, you could always adopt a child and give somebody a life that's underprivileged.
You could volunteer at like boys and girls club and get that, and you know,
if you could get a dog, that's what I did. I much prefer having my
dog over a kid, but you know, if you can't have kids, you can't have
kids. It's not such a terrible thing. There are other ways to start a family
if starting a family is really what you want.
ANGIE: Yeah, Luke, I hear you on the dog. I've been eyeing those rescue pups
at the shelter in Douglas, thinking maybe a furry sidekick could fill some of this
empty space without the whole diaper drama. Adoptions crossed my mind too, but at 46
and running a funeral home where deaths the daily grind, it feels a bit daunting
to jump into raising a kid's solo. You know, volunteering might be a start, though.
Heck, I could use something to get me out of the house besides fishing alone
by the pellensillos.
LUKE: Well, there you go.
LUKE: Keep yourself active and busy and productive and just enjoy the life that you
have. You can't take back, you know, what happens biologically, and you're not getting any
younger. And you know what, I doubt that you really want to start raising a
child at 46 years old. I know people do it, and they love that, but
it seems like a really hard thing to do. I mean, when they're 18, you're
going to be what, like 65.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, you're probably right, starting from scratch at my age sounds exhausting, especially
with the funeral home keeping me on my toes all day. And yeah, I'd be
pushing 65 when they're heading off to college, which hits a little too close to
home after burying folks my parents age. But damn, it's not just about the logistics.
It's this ache like I've missed my shot at something I didn't even know I
wanted this bad until it was gone. Makes the quiet nights here in Douglas feel
even heavier, you know.
LUKE: Yeah, I can understand that and sympathize with you. I'm sorry, you lost a
part of yourself. I was telling somebody this story not too long ago, but when
I went to the dentist when I was younger to have my wisdom teeth removed,
I had a couple of wisdom teeth. I wasn't brushing very well. And the dentist
told me, you know, I had to get rid of three of them because they
were rotting. I just wasn't hitting them with the brush in the right way. And
he suggested I remove the fourth wisdom tooth, but he gave me the option. He
said, this tooth is a part of you. And I would pull it out, but
it's your tooth. And if you want to keep the tooth, then you should do
that. So now I have one wisdom tooth.
CALLER: Oh, Luke, that's a heck of a way to frame it. Keeping that one
rogue wisdom tooth like it's your last stand against the dentist's drill, huh? Makes me
chuckle thinking about all the parts we lose along the way without much choice, like
my husband or now this baby dream that's just rotting on the vine no matter
how hard I try to brush it clean.
LUKE: Hey, well, you keep your head up. There's not much we can do about
that. Just find something positive. If you want some more noise in the house, you
can get a pet or if you really do want to raise a kid, then
I would recommend looking into adoption or fostering.
CALLER: Yeah, Luke, keeping my head up is the plan. Appreciate the nudge toward adoption
or fostering. Though fostering sounds like it stir up all kinds of ghosts from the
funeral home. Seeing kids in tough spots come through the door. A pet's probably the
safer bet for now. Something to come home to that doesn't ask too many questions
about why I'm staring at the wall some nights. Hell, maybe I'll drag Denise out
to the shelter with me tomorrow. She's the one who talks me off the ledge
during our coffee breaks anyway.
LUKE: All right, then. Well, thank you for the call. We appreciate it and I
hope you have a great rest of your night and work that out. So, we're
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